Simple formula of life is that you should never say anything that you can not cancel or recall. And this applies to all situations and in life whether it is marriage, friends, business, job or just about everything in daily life.
So What Is Loose Talk ?
Loose talk are the words that come out of our mouths carelessly or rashly – without thinking of the consequences. A loose talk has the probability of offending other individuals and causing damage to your relationships. Now, that’s serious.
Most people who indulge in loose talk about others are affected as much as are the victims of their loose talk. Imagine the scenario whereby, in a fit of rage you shout at your friend, “I am ashamed that I even met you in my life ? You are such a let down.”. Well, consider that this relationship is as good as over. Words spoken in this manner can not be cancelled and taken back even if you keep apologising for a lifetime. Your friend may eventually forgive you but the words you spoke are unlikely to be forgotten ever.
A Diagnostic Test For Loose Talk !
The 3-way test to see whether what you speak is a loose talk or not is this.
Test-1 : Are the words spoken by me true ? If yes, then go to the next Test.
Test-2 : Are the words spoken by me necessary ? If true then we can go to the next Test else stop here.
Test-3 : Are the words kind ? If true then go ahead and speak them. But if false then make them kind and speak only after that.
How Do You Know That You Are Talking Loose ?
Unless you know the problem, you can’t solve it, so it’s essential to understand when you talk loose. Besides the 3-way test, here are some signs that indicate if a person is talking loose.
- You become Uncomfortable in Silence:
When talk becomes silent you may feel you’re the one accountable for filling silences and then you may jump in to speak about everything and anything that comes to mind. Well, this is one indication of talking loose.
- You Regret after A Particular Conversation
If you notice yourself thinking, “What was the need to say that?” or “I humiliated myself” you may have chatted carelessly about the intimate aspects of your life that the other individual didn’t require or wanted to know about you.
- Other Folks Look Distracted Or Bored
If you get the idea that other people seem incredibly bored when you’re talking, you may be speaking too much. Or if they stare elsewhere while you speak or start playing with any object, such as using their mobile phones or whatever they could get their hands on.
- Your Friends often Joke About your Talking too Much:
Your friends may not wish to embarrass you about your talking too much but they may be talking with each other and joking about it. You will come to know sooner or later.
So at the end, loose talk is exposing yourself with thoughtless conversation. If the other person, on the other hand is emotional or hostile or both, he/she will protest back. They won’t agree to go down without a debate. Either way, using phrases erratically and passing any judgment carelessly is sure to rub on the wrong side of what could have been pleasant relationships.
I merely recommend that the next time you are proceeding to say something remember to apply the 3-way test on to correct yourself for future. And remember this wise saying by someone.