Here are two interesting questions. How many friends do you need at any given time to be happy? And, how many true friends do you need in your WHOLE lifetime ?

So what is the right number of friends. Be ready for a BIG BIG surprise. A scientist and researcher, Dr Robin Dunbar did an extensive research on this in 1990s.

After studying the size of the human brain Dr. Dunbar concluded that there is a limit on the number of people with which we can maintain a MEANINGFUL social relationship.

As the picture shows, the key word here is “MEANINGFUL” that is relationships that we would not like to lose. The surprising number that Dr Dunbar came up with is 150.

That is, most people can only have a maximum of 150 meaningful relationships in a lifetime. However, the fascinating part is how he organized them further into four categories based on the closeness of relationship.

He broke it into four orbits with a precise number of friends in each orbit. Note that these numbers can be including Parents, Brothers,Sisters or Friends. But outside our immediate family, it is mostly our friends and companions.

Let us now see what each number means.

Dr Dunbar explained that the inner most circle is likely to have just 5 people. This is our inner sanctum of companionship. All those who fall in this will be our closest companions and friends.
These are the people we engage with and meet most frequently.

These FIVE are the ones we share our inner most feelings and so called “secrets” which we may not do with anyone else.

Next circle of friends, you may have is up to 10 close connections. These are the people who we meet regularly and whom also we hold dear.

But these 10 persons are not as close as those 5 people.

The next orbit consists of 35 people. These are the people whom we do meet often but not regularly. However, these are people close enough in relationships whom we could invite to our private occasions such as our family functions and anniversary etc.

Now let us look at the Dunbar number in the last orbit

Finally, there are 100 people here. These are those who you know relatively well but who you might not see too much. You may not miss them if they did not turn up for your wedding reception.

A natural question would now be “what is the optimum” or the magic number from all these “Dunbar Numbers”.

That number is contained within the first two circles ie your inner sanctum and your close friends. These 15 persons are the ones who will provide you with up to 80% of the emotional wealth and happiness in life.

We now know that the magic number is 15.

Next step would be to sit down and identify these 15 people and even write it down. There is a very good reason for that.

The “Dunbar Numbers” tell us that the trick is to spend 80% of your time with these 15 close relationships. 20% on all others. All smart people DELIBERATELY nurture those relationships which matter the most to them.

Are you doing it ? If not, then go ahead and pick just 3 to 4 friends and work on developing a deeper bond with them.

Let me now leave you with a friendship quotation.

Friends Know How Stupid You Are. But Strangely, They Still Choose To Be Seen With You In Public.” Well, Friends Are Friends.

That’s All For Now. Till We Meet Again.

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